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5 Tips to Bring Your Lady Bits Back to Balance

…and by Lady Bits, I mean Hormones.

Have you ever felt like you were following someone else’s schedule rather than your own natural rhythm?

You may be letting your kids, husband, partner, or even roommates influence the flow of your day; it could also be a broader “prescribed rhythm” that you’re going with instead of actually listening to your body.

Here’s the truth: One rhythm does not work for everyone. Following someone else’s schedule more often than not has a negative effect on female hormones. If you’re dealing with chronic fatigue, low sex drive, intense premenstrual syndrome (PMS), cystic acne, mild depression, or other “random” symptoms, going against your natural rhythm might be the issue. By working to balancing your hormones, you’ll naturally begin to live in harmony with your female body instead of dragging yourself along on someone else’s agenda.

The result? You’ll start feeling more energized and vibrant than ever.

EVALUATE YOUR MINDSET

A lot of women feel like they need to keep up with other people. If you don’t feel like partying four nights a week after a 14-hour workday or exercising for two hours every single day, you might think there’s something wrong with you. You might even beat yourself up or feel ashamed and lazy. Ignoring your body’s signals and writing them off as laziness is not productive or helpful – it actually drains your energy even more.

The mental weight you put on yourself (like shame and judgment) is often more draining than a long to-do list. The female body is naturally incredibly fine-tuned. It is designed for deep relaxation and self-care at certain times of the month and linear, productive work at other times of the month.

Here are some symptoms that commonly appear when you have been pushing your body rather than honoring your limits:

1| You’re exhausted.

2| Your sex drive is nowhere to be found.

3| Your PMS is more intense than usual.

4| You’re gaining weight around the middle of your body.

5| You feel guilty, ashamed, and/or depressed – sometimes for no particular reason.

6| Cystic acne is starting to appear, especially around the jawline and chin.

If this is you, and you feel like you need some help in this department; read on to learn how to heal the body through simple methods that bring your female body back into balance.

1. EMPOWER YOURSELF.

When symptoms pop up, it’s easy to fear there might be a bigger or more complex issue going on or to feel like you’re broken and you can’t heal. The first step to healing is acknowledging that nothing is inherently wrong with you. Even if your health is not perfect right now, there’s nothing wrong with you and you’re not broken. You are whole exactly as you are. From that place of confidence in your body’s ability to heal itself, you can get curious about what’s going on for you and tap into the endless toolbox, the universal library of information that is always within.  To do this, you may want to consider meditation, contemplation, journalling, or other beautiful practises that allow you to explore your feelings, and or be the witness to what is going on for you.  Embodying the mindset that you are healthy now and you can become even healthier takes a huge weight off your shoulders and allows your body to naturally reach health. Stop focussing on what you believe to be WRONG, and focus your energy on the good things in your life. Read more about my recent post on Gratitude to understand how this all works.

2. GET REAL ABOUT REST.

Are you chronically exhausted, trying to push through the day? Maybe you’re actually tired. Starting with weekends, let yourself sleep as long as you want. You might notice that you wake up naturally without an alarm clock during the week. Some people will be healed after one long deep sleep, while others might need to take some serious time off to come back into balance. Sleep is a requirement for good health. Listen to your body and sleep when you’re tired.  Even short power-naps are a juicy way to re-energise the body.  Pop a diffuser on with some calming Essential oils, like, Lavender, Pettitgrain or even LemonGrass and Cedarwood, and let the aromatic compounds calm the nervous system for some down time.

3. BALANCE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM.

Most modern people spend the majority of their lives in the sympathetic nervous system state, aka the fight or flight, stranger-danger zone: that feeling you get when someone creeps up behind you and surprises you – or, perhaps less likely, when you’re getting chased by a bear. Here’s the thing: Your body doesn’t know the difference between those literal stressors and chronic work-related stress, or stress that stems from difficult relationships. When your body is in this sympathetic state, it can’t repair. When you are relaxed and calm, your body is in the parasympathetic state – referred to as the “rest and digest” system. This state is brought on by sleep, laughing, meditation, qigong, reiki, and even intimacy like cuddling and sex. Your body has to be in the parasympathetic state to heal and evolve. The more you can activate your parasympathetic nervous system by relaxing and having more fun, the healthier you’ll be – physically and mentally.

4. EVALUATE EXERCISE.

It might surprise you, but sometimes the harder you work out, the more stress you actually put on your body. Depending on your constitution and condition, you may actually need gentle exercise, like yoga or tai chi. Certain forms of rigorous exercise trigger the stress response, so make sure you balance your hard-core workouts with practices that are more gentle on the body. Gentle practices might include yoga, meditation, or dance. You might even discover that you want to do only these more gentle practices. Experiment for a few weeks and see how your body responds.

5. EMBRACE THE POWER OF COMMUNITY.

Community has a powerful influence on personal health, and developing a community of people to support you is crucial to balancing your hormones. When you feel alone and isolated, you’re more likely to overeat, feel depressed, and lack love and connection in your life. Humans are meant to live in communities – it’s natural and necessary. Reach out to three people this week who you’d like to deepen your relationship with and notice how it impacts your energy and physical health over the next few months.

If you’re stoke that you read this post, and you want to delve into this subject a bit more, then please join me for a workshop on Sunday the 9th April at 11am in Port Melbourne.  Click here to reserve your spot. Tickets are FREE (I know, it’s ludicrous right?!) but seats are limited so get in quick if you can attend,  

If you’re not able to attend because of geographic limitations, then please pop your name on this list – The Healthy Humans List, and I’ll send you some information on when next I’m running a webinar on the subject, and you can join in on the fun then,

Please share this post with women who you feel would benefit from these 5 tips, After all, it’s all about sisterhood, love and sharing the message that it’s ok to beat the drum to your own rhythm. It’s ok to be your own person.  It’s ok, no, IT’S ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY for you to show up in the world EXACTLY as you are NOW. You have a divine gift and by not being true to yourself, but not expressing your hearts passion, by not accessing the gifts that you’ve been given, you’re doing (not only the world at large) but yourself a disservice.

Let’s create a movement in the world where we start to honour the body, and it’s limits. Who’s with me?

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How ‘TRUSTING’ Rewarded Me The Life Of My Dreams!

So by now you know that I am all about discovering and playing around with this innate knowledge and belief that there is an Energy Force around us, supporting us and guiding us on our journey through life.
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It’s not that anyone has shown this energy to me in its physical form, I just KNOW and TRUST that it’s there. I mean, countless times in my life, I have made decisions based on gut feeling, and my gorgeous ‘gut’ never fails me. Admittedly, there were time that this concept of ‘trusting’ wasn’t something that came easy for me.  The more I grew up, the more I realised that I had this inner faith, an inner voice, an energy field, protecting me and showing me what to do and what to say, how to act in certain situations, and whether to react to circumstances in my life.

I realised that through my early 20’s, I allowed circumstances to get in the way of my hearing and listening to my ‘gut’, and things in my life started to go in all directions that I knew, were NOT GOOD FOR ME. I could feel my life downward spiralling, and those that were close to me, were I’m sure, quite afraid for me as I didn’t have any direction, and was just meandering through the days, looking for any highs or fixes that would that cure satiate my thirst for thrills.

So, I started to listen to that voice again. Goodness knows how, but it happened. It was as if I woke up one morning, and considering my actions of late, I’d gone completely mad! CRAZY!

My actions at the time were erratic to some, and even though I can’t say I was fully understanding at the time, I was committed and head-strong to complete the tasks ahead.  I call them ‘tasks’ because at the time, they most certainly were.

If I had to think back, I realise now that I entered into a conversation with my inner voice (now I’m sure you think that i’m crazy right?).  I managed to weasel my way out of countless situations which weren’t serving my highest purpose, and started to head down the path that has lead me to the amazing truth that I am in today.

So when I say, I started to get into a conversation with that voice, what exactly do I mean?

Numero Uno:

I got really clear about what I wanted in my life. Of course it started with what I didn’t want in my life, and at the time, partying and living life aimlessly was definitely something that I DID NOT want.  So, I started to get clear on what I did want.  Some call it prayer, some call it manifesting. Call it what you want, but that’s what I did.  I began the practise of setting intentions.  I first learnt how to do this on my yoga mat, and I experienced this when my yoga-instructor used to offer us a time before practise to set an intention for the next hour or even for the next day, for whatever we wanted in our lives.  She would always explain that we were to set our intention to imply as if it had already taken place, and to practise gratitude for it having already happened.

As time progressed, (and I’m talking a few years here) I started offering my intentions to a higher power – a power that was and still is greater than me. I now believe that I should have started offering this up a lot sooner, but this is how it played in my life. Se la vie.

Setting intentions is a beautiful practise that I continue to do daily. The mood that I infuse into my daily intentions is one of gratitude rather than need.  I feel like ‘needing’ something is a sign of desperation.  Coming from a place of total belief and trust that what I intend to happen is for the greater good, and not just for my selfish needs, also ensures that the energy behind my intention is that of love and compassion both for myself and for others.

An Example of these intentions or manifestations would look something like this:

When I’m trying to decide on something, I ask ‘Show me what to do where to go.  Thank you for revealing to me what it is that I need to know’

Make sense?

I also stopped setting intentions only for myself, and quite often offer up a yoga or meditation practise for others.  This has transformed my life – truly !  How? it’s placed a stop on always having to control outcomes. Being in a place of service and surrender is so much softer than ‘needing’ and ‘wanting’ and fearing the outcome if it doesn’t go my way. I learnt to surrender through prayer /or meditation, which just spiralled more gratitude for my inner guidance.  Does that makes sense?  You’ve often heard me say, ‘I go first, the universe goes second’.  I have to put myself out there FIRST, before I get good things come my way.

You KNOW when you’re aligned, right? You can FEEL it. In every bone of your body and in the ENERGY within your body. 

I like to call it the ‘zhooozsh’ feeling that runs up my spine. 

Grounded. Certain. Electric. On fire. 

THAT is the feeling of alignment for me. 

Seek more of THAT. 

Numero Dos:

The next part for me is to listen for what comes up through meditation.   When we are still, when we are energetically serene, when we are at peace, we allow the voice of love to move through us. When I listen to my intuition and inner guidance, I make a conscious effort to get out of my own way. A simple example in my life right now, is of slowing down when I’ve been going a million miles per hour. My mind is saying, “You’re on a roll Ari, don’t stop now! You’re going to miss out – FOMO!!’ ARRRGH!

What my intuition and inner Guidance is telling me, is to ‘slow down babe, chill and relax a bit. Give yourself space to recoup and recharge.’  I am sure you can relate to this right? I can’t possibly be the only one who experiences this?  I realise that the time I am given to be on my own to consider my own wants and desires, really leads me to a state of peace. I create space for myself to journal for ideas and to be in the stillness to witness and hear what comes up for me.

I dare you to try this! Experience being ‘the Witness’ in your own life – Allow the unfolding of a conversation and let it become a dialogue in your daily life.  ALLOW, WITNESS, WONDER.

Trust that what is coming for you is in the Divine Order of what you’re asking for and what you are grateful for.

Clear the voice of fear and judgement and come to the voice of life.

The outcome?  A Magnificent world which you could never imagine exists becomes reality. A world of support and freedom is available to you.  Be in conversation with the universe.  Deepen your conversation with your inner self and move beyond the judgement of whatever it is that is clocking (cock-blocking) your way.

Trust in the practice and enjoy it. I use Essential Oils DAILY to help and assist me to ‘tune in’.  I find that the smell of certain oils and blends, take me straight to a state of being, and I can’t imagine my life without my little Roll-on or Spritzer; or my Diffuser next to My Meditation Pillow.

I use these Essential Oils to nurture the trust I have with the Universe, with my inner Guidance.

  1.  Myrrh – When the soul has lost the ability to trust, feelings of trust are replaced by feelings of fear and a belief that the world is unsafe.  Myrrh assists in letting go of fear and rekindles trust within the soul.  As you learn to live in trust, confidence in the goodness of life returns and the soul feels more safe  and at home.
  2. Reassuring Blend – Lavender; Ylang Ylang; Frankincense; Clary Sage – Amongst other things, this blend invites us to trust in Divine goodness and grace. It affirms that no amount of control or effort can fill the empty soul.  It reminds us that only through connecting to the Divine, will we cultivate lasting peace. 1A3A4742

If you would like more information about the Essential Oil Brand I stand behind, and would love to get your hands on these little treasures, pl contact me by clicking here.

The Blog Post Picture was taken on our wedding day. It is my Engagement Ring / Bracelet, which was given to me by the Love of My life, when he asked me to marry him. Having had the courage to follow my gut, and trust my intuition, I now live a life abundant with love, and everything a gal could ask for.

I would absolutely LOVE to hear from you if you’ve had any experiences in your life, whereby you just ‘trusted the process’ and it’s lead you to an Incredible Outcome.

Post your comments below.

join-my-list The information provided above is not intended to diagnose, prescribe for, treat, cure or prevent any disease or ailment. I am not a health professional. Essential oils are essentially classed as a food/cosmetic and not a drug. Essential oils can help support a healthy immune system and calm us and lift us up.

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Fallen In a Funk?….Try these 5 ways this to get out of it.

You’re in a funk!  Do you even know you’re in a funk?  What the hell is a funk?  Well, have do you ever feel stuck?  I mean, like you’re not moving.  Not forward figuratively, and then also perhaps physically.  Even your words sound flat, empty & disconnected.  You’re not so much depressed, but you’re discouraged?  Something feels ‘off’, and you just can’t put your finger on it.

Well, if you feel any or all of the above, today is your lucky day!  Grab a cuppa Indian Chai Tea and listen up.

These tips are a sure way to get out of that Nasty Funk.

1. Recognise Why;

Take responsibility of the reasons why you may be feeling this way. Sometimes a bit of self reflection is required.  And whilst it may the last thing you want do, you’ve got to understand why.  Once that task has been completed, and you have an inkling of what’s getting you down, then you’ve got to Own it! Be unapologetic and vulnerable in this feeling or sensation AND the reasons as to why you’re feeling the way you do.  Meditation is a great tool for getting out of your own head so that you can step back and take a genuine look to see what the reason is for your funk.

2.  It’s OK; 

Know that it’s OK to feel ‘off’ sometimes.  No-one expects you to be ‘on’ all the time, so cut yourself some slack.  Try to make things easier for yourself and shift into cruise control. Fly under the radar and only do work that you find easy.  By surrendering to ‘what is’, and saying YES to the present moment you may find yourself in the perfect place to practise gratitude and self-care. Too much thought can be unnecessary, not to mention exhausting, so, Stop the Hamster-Wheel!

“What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is?” – Ekhart Tolle

3.  Be of Service to Someone; 

Get out into the world.  Have a face-to-face connection and seek the presence of people you love, and people who inspire you. Buddy-up with someone and connect with people who appreciate you.  Have you ever noticed how good you feel when you’re doing something nice for someone?  Bake a cake, sing a song, write a nice message or do all three if you feel like it, but the mere fact that you’re giving back, will make you feel like a million bucks, with the added bonus extra of making the recipient feels special and loved.

4.  Set Goals; 

Incentivise yourself and take one step at a time.  Choose something that you may be struggling with, or something that you’ve wanted to try or do, and DO IT.  Stop pussy-footing around, making excuses and or neglecting your heart and souls longing.  It can be something that’s not even result driven, like Meditating for minutes per day.  The mere action of taking a seat to calm the thoughts in your hamster-wheel head, will give you the sense of gifting time for yourself, which in itself is pretty powerful stuff.  If you’re someone who loves seeing results, then maybe setup a new exercise regime. Exercise releases endorphins that make you feel good and happy.  Buddying-up with someone and finding the time to exercise is a fool-proof way to leaving your funk behind.

5. Try something new; 

…like journaling!  (or mediating.  Ps. I bang on about this ALL THE TIME, and am completely unapologetic about it too).  Journaling will help slow down your thoughts, and keeps you honest to recognise and identify patterns (over time).  It most certainly keeps me focussed, and provides a judgement-free space to harness the healing power of words.

Now go forth and spread your love into the world. Leave your funk behind!

If you’ve ever been in a funk, leave some comments below to help and inspire your fellow humans.