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6 Essential Oils for Sensuality, Sexuality and Libido

Over the past few months essential oils have become a huge part of my everyday life, including my sex life. I use the oils in a hot bath, in a diffuser in my bedroom, on my skin as perfume, and in coconut oil as a massage oil and daily moisturiser. I can honestly say the oils have taken my sensual and sexual life to a whole new level of ecstasy!

Here’s the top 6 oils that I’m using on a daily basis:

1.Ylang Ylang
Ylang Ylang is known to elevate sexual energy and increase libido … it is also a powerful aphrodisiac. Mmmmmmm … I love the scent of this beautiful oil. Use Ylang Ylang in a diffuser in your bedroom, or simply add a couple of drops to coconut oil and enjoy the aroma whilst massaging yourself or your lover.

Ylang Ylang is also great for the heart chakra and encourages playfulness, freedom and joy. I use this oil on my heart chakra as a daily perfume and add it to my diffuser in my bedroom to create a sensual and sexual space for love-making.

2.Geranium
Geranium oil has a harmonising affect on the mind and emotions and is known to elevate happiness, love and trust. It’s a powerful oil to use during intimacy and sex because it harmonises the energy in the room and creates a beautiful space for sensuality, intimacy and deep connection.

Geranium Oil is for the heart Chakra and is great for self-love, emotional healing and forgiveness. This oil also promotes connection and grounding in our body and is great to help boost body confidence during sex.

3.Clary Sage
Clary Sage helps increase sexual desire by decreasing inhibitions, arousing emotions and boosting libido. If you’re looking for some creativity and spice in the bedroom, Clary Sage is perfect.

Clary Sage is also powerful in regulating and balancing hormones in women and great to use during menstruation to ease cramping and mood imbalances.

Blend with Lavender oil in a hot bath to create a sensual and relaxing pre-sex soak with your lover.

4.White Fir
White Fir is a grounding oil that is known as the oil for generational healing. This oil helps clear old beliefs that keep us stuck from moving forward as empowered sexual beings.

Mix this oil with Ylang Ylang and/or Wild Orange to create a beautiful and uplifting blend that will increase vitality, intimacy and libido.

5.Wild Orange
Wild Orange is fresh and uplifting and creates joy, abundance and flow! This oil is renowned for bringing a buzz to the sacral chakra to enhance abundance and creativity and move stagnant or stuck sexual energy. If you want to increase energy levels in the bedroom and get the juices flowing I recommend adding a drop of this oil to your diffuser and noticing the subtle affect it has on the energy levels in the room.

6.Lavender
Lavender reduces anxiety and promotes relaxation and sexual excitement. It is also the oil for communication, so using this will help increase ease around communication and expression of sexual needs and desires. This oil is renowned for creating a calming and safe space for lovers to enjoy deep intimacy and orgasmic states.

Blend Lavender with wild orange to create a beautiful vibe joyful, relaxed love-making.

If you want to start exploring using essential oils to awaken more of your sensuality and sexuality, reach out and I can help get you started with my personal recommendations.

Arianna xo

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Two Steps To Happiness…

“cynics do not contribute, sceptics do not create and doubters do not achieve” – Brian Hinckley

I haven’t written for a while. Maybe because I’ve been distracted building my doTERRA business, (which by the way, has seen some incredible growth over the past few weeks), but I’ve also found the courage to drop that which doesn’t serve me, in whatever shape it takes form in.  Aside from the expansive growth I have experienced in my incredible team, I’ve also (by no coincidence) experienced this growth in my life. The person who I am now, is most certainly NOT the gal who posted the previous blog post a whole 6 weeks ago. I know this because she would never have allowed a week to pass without working on her blog. Wouldn’t have allowed anything to ‘slip’ for fear that she would have been disappointing herself.

Crazy I know, because in the big scheme of things, who cares if I skip a couple of weeks of writing for my blog right?  The pressure of ensuring that it was posted every week or even every fortnight was suffocating me. It was ruining my ability to create, my ability to rest, surrender and therefore connect with the important people in my life.  No matter how hard I had worked that week, if I didn’t complete my to-do list, then I had failed.

Why is it that the negative sticks to our brains (like velcro) and the positive slides off like teflon?
We can accomplish all the goodness in the world, yet if we forget or fail at ONE THING, we crumble in disappointment.  I am all for positive thinking, mantras, affirmations, good vibes. But why is it that sometimes, we cling onto that which makes us unhappy, and then dwell on the unhappiness we feel, as if we expect to feel completely different after having taken the exact same steps that we’ve always taken.

For me this looks like pushing, striving, working late nights, early mornings, being VERY YANG (which isn’t attractive by the way) and of course, in my masculine a lot more than I’d care to admit. It seems that to be ‘happy’ and content, we’re willing to drop the things that make us happy and content, and rather work with and for things that make us unhappy and discontent.

Why is this?
Why do we hold onto destructive patterns which we know are’t good for us? and more than that, why do we have the ability to ‘cut-the-crap’ in some situations, & yet other times, we hold onto whatever it is that’s gnawing at us, and allow it to ruin our day, our week, month, year or even our life. Ridiculous really!

Well, It appears that a certain amount of it is biological. If you’re not hard-wired to do so through genetic pre-dispositioning, then the idea of trying to be positive and creative positive things in your life without strategies is nearby impossible. It turns out, that we need to teach ourselves ways to be positive, which then in turn emphasises growth, and in turn makes us happy.

If we have generational patterns of self-sabotage and victimhood, then of course, we will have these situations and circumstances appear in our lives ever-so frequently, because the truth is, that we attract who and what we are, AND what we think about.

So how do we turn things around?
How do we experience more positive emotions without feeling like we’re faking it?
How do we create a healthy environment for happy feelings?

Well we first and foremost start with G R A T I T U D E

This simple word is where everything starts and ultimately where it goes wrong. I bang on about gratitude so much I reckon my yoga students are bored with it’s teachings, but the thing is my friends, is that gratitude cascades down in ways unimaginable.  It has the ability to broaden your emotions, your thoughts, AND YOUR your awareness.  Showing gratitude and love to those around us uplifts our souls and our hearts.

By saying THANK YOU regularly, by being grateful, you increase your chances of some positive feedback in your life. This in turn reduces stress which in turn builds your self-confidence, & when we’re happy, we increase our resilience, which yet again increases our self confidence.

The next important thing to take notice of what is making you UNHAPPY? What is taking you away from your truth? What makes you feel stressed out? and then more importantly, why are you doing it?  

Understanding why it is that we hold on to certain situations, or destructive patterns gives us a real deep understanding of how we’re allowing those emotions to mould our lives.  We could habitually stick to a habit that we learnt from our parents, and yet we have no idea how and why we react the way we do.

The best part of this is, that once we know what these emotions are, and why they’re there, then clearing these emotions (by sitting with them and allowing them to pass through us, witnessing them as they pass), and making a conscious choice to change, allows the hurt to heal. That’s when we start living again. Once we’ve healed. The other really ace thing is that once we’ve healed, then (and only then) do we find the good in other people. When we let go of the hurt and let love come in; When we look for the joy and the positive, THE SILVER LINING we get to turn things around in a holy instant.

This is commonly known as EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

To practise the two steps I mentioned above, I use the following essential oils and self care practises:

Gratitude Blend: doTERRA Passion Blend, Frankincense, and Wild Orange. Pop this blend on my pulse points and meditate first thing in the morning. I then journal about all the things I am grateful for.

Self-Assessment: Determine what you’re feeling, and express that through talking to a friend, drawing, colouring, writing, and or exercising. Whilst and or during this cathartic experience, you’ll come to realise what it is that has triggered you to feel these emotions. Was it a certain situation? A person? Was it something that they said? and if so, what core belief is it that you believe that this feeling or emotion comes from.

If you feel that you would like some guidance as to how to release the root cause of your problems, then please email me to express interest in the Next Emotions Mentor Course which I am hosting in Melbourne.  You’ll be placed on my VIP list and you’ll get early bird ticket options before anyone else. It’s going to be epic.

With love,
Arianna.

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5 Tips to Bring Your Lady Bits Back to Balance

…and by Lady Bits, I mean Hormones.

Have you ever felt like you were following someone else’s schedule rather than your own natural rhythm?

You may be letting your kids, husband, partner, or even roommates influence the flow of your day; it could also be a broader “prescribed rhythm” that you’re going with instead of actually listening to your body.

Here’s the truth: One rhythm does not work for everyone. Following someone else’s schedule more often than not has a negative effect on female hormones. If you’re dealing with chronic fatigue, low sex drive, intense premenstrual syndrome (PMS), cystic acne, mild depression, or other “random” symptoms, going against your natural rhythm might be the issue. By working to balancing your hormones, you’ll naturally begin to live in harmony with your female body instead of dragging yourself along on someone else’s agenda.

The result? You’ll start feeling more energized and vibrant than ever.

EVALUATE YOUR MINDSET

A lot of women feel like they need to keep up with other people. If you don’t feel like partying four nights a week after a 14-hour workday or exercising for two hours every single day, you might think there’s something wrong with you. You might even beat yourself up or feel ashamed and lazy. Ignoring your body’s signals and writing them off as laziness is not productive or helpful – it actually drains your energy even more.

The mental weight you put on yourself (like shame and judgment) is often more draining than a long to-do list. The female body is naturally incredibly fine-tuned. It is designed for deep relaxation and self-care at certain times of the month and linear, productive work at other times of the month.

Here are some symptoms that commonly appear when you have been pushing your body rather than honoring your limits:

1| You’re exhausted.

2| Your sex drive is nowhere to be found.

3| Your PMS is more intense than usual.

4| You’re gaining weight around the middle of your body.

5| You feel guilty, ashamed, and/or depressed – sometimes for no particular reason.

6| Cystic acne is starting to appear, especially around the jawline and chin.

If this is you, and you feel like you need some help in this department; read on to learn how to heal the body through simple methods that bring your female body back into balance.

1. EMPOWER YOURSELF.

When symptoms pop up, it’s easy to fear there might be a bigger or more complex issue going on or to feel like you’re broken and you can’t heal. The first step to healing is acknowledging that nothing is inherently wrong with you. Even if your health is not perfect right now, there’s nothing wrong with you and you’re not broken. You are whole exactly as you are. From that place of confidence in your body’s ability to heal itself, you can get curious about what’s going on for you and tap into the endless toolbox, the universal library of information that is always within.  To do this, you may want to consider meditation, contemplation, journalling, or other beautiful practises that allow you to explore your feelings, and or be the witness to what is going on for you.  Embodying the mindset that you are healthy now and you can become even healthier takes a huge weight off your shoulders and allows your body to naturally reach health. Stop focussing on what you believe to be WRONG, and focus your energy on the good things in your life. Read more about my recent post on Gratitude to understand how this all works.

2. GET REAL ABOUT REST.

Are you chronically exhausted, trying to push through the day? Maybe you’re actually tired. Starting with weekends, let yourself sleep as long as you want. You might notice that you wake up naturally without an alarm clock during the week. Some people will be healed after one long deep sleep, while others might need to take some serious time off to come back into balance. Sleep is a requirement for good health. Listen to your body and sleep when you’re tired.  Even short power-naps are a juicy way to re-energise the body.  Pop a diffuser on with some calming Essential oils, like, Lavender, Pettitgrain or even LemonGrass and Cedarwood, and let the aromatic compounds calm the nervous system for some down time.

3. BALANCE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM.

Most modern people spend the majority of their lives in the sympathetic nervous system state, aka the fight or flight, stranger-danger zone: that feeling you get when someone creeps up behind you and surprises you – or, perhaps less likely, when you’re getting chased by a bear. Here’s the thing: Your body doesn’t know the difference between those literal stressors and chronic work-related stress, or stress that stems from difficult relationships. When your body is in this sympathetic state, it can’t repair. When you are relaxed and calm, your body is in the parasympathetic state – referred to as the “rest and digest” system. This state is brought on by sleep, laughing, meditation, qigong, reiki, and even intimacy like cuddling and sex. Your body has to be in the parasympathetic state to heal and evolve. The more you can activate your parasympathetic nervous system by relaxing and having more fun, the healthier you’ll be – physically and mentally.

4. EVALUATE EXERCISE.

It might surprise you, but sometimes the harder you work out, the more stress you actually put on your body. Depending on your constitution and condition, you may actually need gentle exercise, like yoga or tai chi. Certain forms of rigorous exercise trigger the stress response, so make sure you balance your hard-core workouts with practices that are more gentle on the body. Gentle practices might include yoga, meditation, or dance. You might even discover that you want to do only these more gentle practices. Experiment for a few weeks and see how your body responds.

5. EMBRACE THE POWER OF COMMUNITY.

Community has a powerful influence on personal health, and developing a community of people to support you is crucial to balancing your hormones. When you feel alone and isolated, you’re more likely to overeat, feel depressed, and lack love and connection in your life. Humans are meant to live in communities – it’s natural and necessary. Reach out to three people this week who you’d like to deepen your relationship with and notice how it impacts your energy and physical health over the next few months.

If you’re stoke that you read this post, and you want to delve into this subject a bit more, then please join me for a workshop on Sunday the 9th April at 11am in Port Melbourne.  Click here to reserve your spot. Tickets are FREE (I know, it’s ludicrous right?!) but seats are limited so get in quick if you can attend,  

If you’re not able to attend because of geographic limitations, then please pop your name on this list – The Healthy Humans List, and I’ll send you some information on when next I’m running a webinar on the subject, and you can join in on the fun then,

Please share this post with women who you feel would benefit from these 5 tips, After all, it’s all about sisterhood, love and sharing the message that it’s ok to beat the drum to your own rhythm. It’s ok to be your own person.  It’s ok, no, IT’S ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY for you to show up in the world EXACTLY as you are NOW. You have a divine gift and by not being true to yourself, but not expressing your hearts passion, by not accessing the gifts that you’ve been given, you’re doing (not only the world at large) but yourself a disservice.

Let’s create a movement in the world where we start to honour the body, and it’s limits. Who’s with me?

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The Science Of Happiness; and 4 Things You Can Start Doing Today!

Do you wish you were happier?

Wish that there was something that you could do to generate some true and everlasting happiness? Well look no further my friends, because I’, about to tell you  4 uber-cool ways to get turn your frown upside-down.

After having read ‘Thank and Grow Rich’, a book written by Pamela Grout, (more links to my fave books here) last year, I’ve experienced the benefits of practicing Gratitude first hand.

I’ve found that even when you think you don’t have it all, by simply focusing on what you have today, you’ll make space for a positive mindset, and you’ll actually be happier. Yes, you read right. It’ll MAKE YOU HAPPIER.

Watch this video to get the gist of what I’m saying:

Now that you’ve watched this really cool lab-guy in a white coat explain how the art of gratitude can make you happier, think about this:   The average person has an estimated 70,000 thoughts per day! (That’s crazy right?)

Now take a moment to think about the thoughts that run through your mind. Are they positive and uplifting? “Today is going to be an amazing day!” Or negative and self-defeating? “I don’t have the energy to get through today.”

Positive and grateful thoughts boost your mood, spirit, and tend to generate even more positivity and happiness in your life. Conversely, negative thoughts can create a domino effect of destructive energy. Falling into a spiral of negativity tremendously affects how you live your life and how others perceive you. Thankfully, you don’t have to accept the negative internal chatter. Choose to switch to a happier perception and reach for better thoughts. It takes a little practice, but soon enough, your mind will gravitate to the brighter side of life. Practice cultivating a positive, grateful mindset with these tips.

As Abraham Hicks say in their book – ask and it is given,’ We are often asked, Isn‘t love a better word than appreciation? Isn‘t love more descriptive of the Non- Physical Energy? And we say that love and appreciation are really the same vibration. Some use the word gratitude, or a feeling of thankfulness, but all of these words are descriptive of Well-Being. A desire to appreciate is a very good first step, and then as you find more things that you would like to say “Thank you” about, it quickly gains momentum. And as you want to feel appreciation, you attract something to appreciate. And as you appreciate it, then you attract something else to appreciate, until, in time, you are experiencing a Rampage of Appreciation.’

So what does it actually mean to MAKE SPACE FOR GRATITUDE? and what do I define as being grateful?  I think that the simple act of being aware and thankful of the good things that happen (and even the not-so-good things, as these are the ones that actually provide us with a silver lining of greatness to be grateful for) ; & taking time to express thanks.

Here are some ways I like to cultivate gratitude on a regular basis.

  1. I keep a gratitude journal and each day write down FIVE thoughts (and or more) that I’m grateful for.  I do this first thing in the morning, EVERY MORNING.  Whether i have 5 minutes or 15 minutes, expressing gratitude for me is a daily ritual.  I recently read that writing in a gratitude journal improves sleep, according to a 2011 study published in Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being, simply spending just 15 minutes jotting down a few grateful sentiments before bed, and you may sleep better and longer. (i’m going to start this tonight). I received this Wedding Journal as a gift for our engagement, but because I’m not the sorta gal to plan everything to a tee, I didn’t really use it, so I’m modifying the content.  
  2. When you want to express your gratitude to a friend or family member, Write a thank-you note, or even just send a text. You can make yourself happier and nurture your relationship with another person by writing to them, expressing your enjoyment and appreciation of that person’s impact on your life. Send it, or better yet, deliver a hand-written letter and read it in person if possible. Make a habit of sending at least one gratitude letter/ text a month.
  3. Thank someone mentally.  It may help just to think about someone who has done something nice for you, and mentally thank the individual.  With every thought you think, every emotion you feel, you’re acting as an epigenetic engineer of your own cells. YOU control your destiny. If you continue to focus on the things that you’re most grateful for, those things will continue to appear in your life. You will begin to change the neurological circuitry of your brain, and begin to think from that new level of mind.  Pretty incredible right?!
  4. Meditate!  This is BIG ONE!! People who are disciplined to meditate daily can use meditation to cultivate gratitude.  You can also use a technique called mindfulness meditation, which involves focusing on the present moment without judgment. Although people often focus on a word or phrase (such as “peace”), it is also possible to focus on what you’re grateful for (the warmth of the sun, a pleasant sound, etc.).

Gratitude may be one of the most overlooked tools that we all have access to every day. Cultivating gratitude doesn’t cost any money and it certainly doesn’t take much time, but the benefits are enormous.

We all have the ability and opportunity to cultivate gratitude. Simply take a few moments to focus on all that you have – rather than complain about all the things you think you deserve. Developing an “attitude of gratitude” is one of the simplest ways to improve your satisfaction with life.

(ps . this is not the first post I’ve written about gratitude – see another by clicking here)

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ARE YOU CRAVING MOVEMENT?

Stress, hard work, and lots of thinking create tension in the body, which can lead to chronic aches, tightness, and constipation. I see this all too often, with the problem being that once this tension has fixated its claws into the body, it’s often a bit too late and so many people try to alleviate these symptoms with alcohol and sugar, which only serve to dampen their unease and anesthetize the body.

I’ve always been an advocate for regular exercise. From a young age, I was always seen on the netball or tennis courts, cricket or softball fields, and mostly in the dance or yoga studio.  It is an ideal way of releasing a build up of physical tension, and alleviating the mind of stresses or anxieties which we all feel from time to time.

Developing a regular exercise program to suit your particular body type and lifestyle will have numerous rewards. The challenge is to find the types of exercise you enjoy most, and then build them into your life.  After all, it’s those things that we enjoy doing the most that will see us coming back fro more right?

And so the question you need to answer first and foremost is:

WHAT TYPE OF EXERCISE WORKS BEST FOR YOU?

Say GoodBye to Boring Exercise Regimes, and ‘must-do’ fitness goals. Wouldn’t you rather be excited and motivated to get to your training sesh for the day?

Answer these 5 easy Q’s and let’s discover what lights you up and gets you going…

  1. THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU LOVED TO DO AS A KID.
  • Did you dance, bike, or hike? This is a good place to start when looking for a new exercise routine. Set your timer for one minute and start writing about all the things you LOVED to do as a Kid … Ready? Go…!

  1. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY.
  • Know that movement is a lot like food. Once you understand how different types of movement nourish your body in different ways, you can put together a menu of activities
to keep yourself in balance. 
Sign up for my Newsletter to earn about ways in which you can download my new 40 page eBOOK, which goes through Simple and Immediate ways in which you can learn to manage your stress through exercise, and how various forms of exercise can give you the benefits that you so greatly deserve.
  • Feeling frail and unfocused? Try a vigorous exercise to make you feel stable and powerful like kickboxing or running.
  • Feeling tight and tense? Try a gentler exercise to increase lightness and flexibility like swimming or yoga.

 

  1. WHAT’S YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE?
  • If you are a quiet person who likes a lot of alone time, consider buying a small trampoline or a set of hand weights so you can move in the comfort of your home.
  • If you like being around groups of people, you can find team sports like baseball or volleyball, which have the added benefit of human interaction and fun competition.
  • You can also find a blend of the two by taking a group fitness class like Pilates, karate, or dance.
  1. WHEN DO YOU FEEL MOST ENERGETIC?
  • Just as some people think more clearly in the morning and others think more clearly at night, some people prefer to exercise first thing in the morning, while others prefer to exercise later in the day. There’s no right or wrong; it’s simply a matter of personal preference.
  1. THINK ABOUT CONVENIENCE AND COMFORT LEVEL.
  • Look for a gym or yoga studio near your home or on the way to the office where you can work out. It’s important to find a location that’s convenient, and where the atmosphere is pleasant, comfortable, and welcoming. This will enhance your chances of going regularly.

And remember, physical activity can take simple and modest forms, like getting off the train, tram or bus one stop earlier and walking to your destination. It can be taking the stairs, instead of the elevator, to your office or apartment. It can be taking your dog for a walk or your children to the park. A 30-minute brisk walk every day may be all you need to keep yourself in shape.

Be experimental and find a routine you can nourish yourself with on a daily basis. What will get you moving?

THE ATHLETES KIT:

I’ve noticed that whilst most of you kicked ‘back into gear’ last month (Feb) that you’re looking to take your training, practise or exercise regime to the next level, and I’ve got just the thing to get you there.

This Athletes Kit, as I’ve so aptly named it, has all the goodies you’ll need to ensure that you look after your body whilst you embark on this ‘next level training’.
PLUS – I’ve written a 30 page eBook titled ‘An Oily Lesson about your Body, Stress, and Exercise’ which has some really cool explanations (If I may say so myself) on how we can increase our metabolism, try and experiment with various forms of exercise and what / how they’ll help you achieve physically, as well as some Easy Steps that you can embrace TODAY, as you reach towards your Health and Wellness goals.

f you’re interested in learning more, send me a quick email and I’ll email some bits n bobs to you         e: arianna@ariannapienaar.com

OR Jump on my newsletter list by clicking the picture below or CLICK HERE and I’ll be sure to send out some jooooocy information within the next few days

 

 

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2 Simple Inquiries into Self-Sabotage

We all have unlimited potential right? Well, that’s what every self-help and personal-development book tells us, and I believe it all, I do.

But often our results don’t reflect that. Why? Because our unconscious beliefs cripple our results. These ‘unconscious beliefs’ are our programmed beliefs, the ones our parents, school-teachers, and other significant people from our youth gave to us.

This is big for me. We’re taught that we need to work HARD, and that we need to SUFFER to ‘earn’ success and happiness. As if the amount of suffering we endure will amount to the quantity of our bliss. Our nature is to only invest energy into that which we believe will produce the outcome we seek. I mean, that makes logical sense right?

Decide what you want, and then go after it. Work long hours, undercut & undermine people, be nasty and play office-politics, because ‘that’s the only way you’re going to make it to the top’.

Not only have we been taught a skewed lesson on how to achieve greatness, but on the flip-side of it all, when we believe something is not going to work out – even an unconscious belief that we may consciously not even be aware of – we sabotage our potential by taking half-hearted action.

Also called Cognitive Distortions, most of the obstacles we encounter are created through thinking patterns that we have developed throughout our lives. Over time, these patterns become habits that lead to unconscious self sabotage. In order to counteract this, we need to be aware of our thinking patterns and how they affect our lives.

And this my dear friends, is what I have caught myself doing lately…drum roll please….

Little action equals lousy results.

Lousy results equal uncertainty and disheartened beliefs.  

It is a vicious cycle that only ends when you decide to change what you’re putting into it.

EARLIER ON THIS MONTH, I realised for the first time how far I had actually come. In spite of all the self-doubt, worry and self-sabotage …. it’s all come good. In fact, I’m exactly where I always wanted to be.

But wait, what now? Things are going ‘too well’. That little voice in my head says ‘something’s gotta give Ari, this is all going wayyyy too good.  I can still hear the constant dissatisfaction and frustration, the self doubt, self sabotage, resistance, judgement and fear felt when hearing this voice trying to coax me out of my happiness and satisfaction.

What I have come to realize is that Many of us sabotage because we fear change. We fear it may create too much havoc and instability in our lives. We fear that it may mean the end of our marriages, chosen careers or popularity. Sound familiar?

This type of self-sabotage, can seep its way into your goals, your relationships, projects, and almost all other areas of your life. To make this clear, what we’re actually doing is, failing on purpose. Crazy hey?!

So after having this little nugget of realization earlier this month, I started to recount all the things that have been ‘going wrong’ lately, and I’ve been able to pin-point the areas of sabotage, and finally take control and responsibility of my actions, or more appropriately, my in-actions.

Of course, things that have happened, have already happened right, but it’s my responsibility as an adult, to get my arse into gear, and step-up!

So this is what I’ve been working on which I thought to share in case you’re experiencing the same frustrations as I am:

  • Re-sort my goals – Are my goals my own or are they imposed by someone else? We often sabotage the outcome of our goals when our heart is not in it. In my case, what I realized is that I have been setting my goals too high. Being way too ambitious, so that I actually set myself up for failure. So, I set a really high goal, and then when I miss the mark, I get down on myself, which only confirms all the fear and self-doubt that I have, which then forms a perpetual cycle. And On and On we go.  I pop the lids off my essential oils, take a whif, and dig deep. The oils I used for this step are one’s for courage; Clove, Ginger, doTERRA’s Cheer Blend and doTERRA’s Motivate Blend (which I used so much that I had to purchase new bottles);  These oils are encouraging and uplifting, and they foster confidence to follow through with one’s own inspirations and intentions. They act as a support in rediscovering and maintaining one’s desire to serve your highest purpose and helps you to spring into action. To find out more on how you can purchase your Essential Oils, click here.
  • Investigate what emotions have I been avoiding? What situations have I been avoiding for fear of success or failure? By avoiding situations, we can prevent ourselves from hurtful emotions but we also prevent ourselves from happiness, moving forward, love, success, achievement and the joy of living.  This can show up in our lives in so many ways. Ask yourself honestly, can you relate to any of these three statements? And If so, how?
    1. Not getting involved in a relationship to avoid possible heartbreak.
    2. Not taking risks to avoid failure.
    3. Not asking because you’re fearful of rejection.

Whether we try to suppress our emotions via avoidance, covering up or ignoring them, it becomes clear as time progresses that our emotions are never truly suppressed. Our body is designed for expressions and thus finds alternative pathways for the emotion to surface i.e.: illness, depression, moodiness, self sabotage, stagnancy, failure, bad luck etc.

The thing is, you can do “all the right things”, and yet… if you’re constantly having thoughts and words that disempower you and others, it will sabotage your results.  What is your ‘love and bliss’ ceiling? What amount of love, bliss and ‘everything is going so well’ can you handle before ‘it’s too good to be true’? Perhaps you get to the 2 year mark and then self-sabotage because 2 years is your limit. Or perhaps it’s something else.

Passive-aggressive people sabotage the work assignment that they don’t want to do. For example, a woman I know was given a task at work that she absolutely deplored. But she was afraid of saying no to her boss, so instead she made many mistakes while completing the task to ensure that she’d never be asked to do it again.

Here is some food for thought to start the inquiry into your actions. If there is even a tinge of something herein that triggers you, delve deeper, until you know what it is that you could be doing to sabotage yourself:

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Unworthiness means that you don’t feel worthy of receiving the same goodness to which you believe everyone else is entitled. As a person who believes you’re unworthy, you’ll sabotage all good things as they come to you. You won’t have your sights set high enough. You’ll expect the worst, so that’s what you’ll attract and create.

#2

If you people-please, everyone will know it. People-pleasers never get away with their act. Others know that you’re faking your feelings, laughter, and smiles, and they’ll doubt your sincerity and your integrity. They won’t trust you, and they’ll wonder what else you might be dishonest about. So people-pleasing can sabotage your credibility in business, and your trustworthiness in relationships.

There are so many other ways which you can sabotage yourself. Please share your experiences in the comments below so that others can learn from you too.

 

Intimacy and Connection

My 5 Transformational Truths about Connection and Intimacy

Having dappled with being a sole trader (or as I like to call it a soul trader) for over three years, and from time to time, having my finger in the employment pie, whether it be as a full-timer or part-timer, it was time that I finally took the plunge and rocked the world of entrepreneurship.

Ups, Downs and Whirlwinds later, I am starting to find my feet in this luscious land of being my own BOSS, which by the way, took a while for me to get a handle on. No more ‘asking permission’ to do anything.  No more ‘justifications’. No more having to ask for time off ! (yeeha) I am finally the CEO of my own life, and I’m LOVING IT! Of course there are times, when the uncertainty gets the better of my psyche, but to be honest – all it takes are a few hours away from the screen, reading, walking or hanging out at the dog park with Marvin, and I’m reset & recharged.

The one thing that I wasn’t prepared for though, was the craving I now have for connection. Don’t get me wrong, I still teach Yoga, and host Essential Oil Classes around Australia. I’m on the phone All. Day. Long. But it’s not that I’m lonely. I mean, I’m an only child, and my bliss is being left alone to enjoy good quality ‘me time’. Drop me in the idle of no-where, and I’ll be as happy as a pig in poofie.
I’m talking about REAL connection. The type you find with people you work with every day. The checking-in every morning with a cuppa joe to find out how the few hours spent apart the night before went. The constant questioning and true concern about your home life. Your feelings, your worries, your experiences. You know what I mean?

Human beings are hardwired for connection and intimacy.  It’s the vulnerability aspect of true friendships that allow us to crack open and bare all. The ‘knowing’ that there is no judgment over our perception of situations, and the ability to be completely honest and truthful about our deepest darkest secrets.  So it’s no surprise (hindsight has 20/20 vision right?) that this is the one aspects of my new life, that I truly miss.

Over the years, I have loved deepening my connection with myself and researching the Divine within. I thought that I was confident in understanding and experiencing authentic relationships in all areas of my life.  Turns out that nothing prepares you for the effort required to reach out and create deep authentic connections, especially when you’re working by your lonesome.

Truly divine connections come when we do our best to honour and understand ourselves, and we’re able to wear our hearts on our sleeves. That’s the key to rocking relationships.

When you look back at how humans have lived throughout history, it’s always been about connection.

We used to live in tribes, and have our friends and families look after one another’s children.

Indigenous people live, breath, and participate in this kind of world still.  

They collaborate and celebrate life’s happenings. They live in harmony with a reverence for life, in a ‘you and me’ world. Not a ‘you or me’ me world.

Is this what has driven us apart as a culture? Have we lost our soul connections because of competition? Distinctions of living life in scarcity instead of sufficiency?

We have seriously lost touch with the importance of connection, community and celebration?

In the aggressive ‘money-culture’ that we live in, where we’re always craving more. More Money, Bigger Houses, Faster Cars. Are we missing out on experiencing the sensuous flows that invite intimacy with the present moment?

Should we instead be striving for More intimacy?  More connection?  More real, raw and authentic relationships?  And more fulfilment?

And if so, how do we boost intimacy & connection? Not only the sexual intimacy that we have with our partners and spouses, but that with ourselves and those close to us in our lives?

Here is what I have found to be true:

  1. Nothing beats connecting in real life, because common goals = true connection and a room of babes = laughs. ALL the best bits. My goal for the first half of 2017?  Connection 
  2. Meditation is the no.1 key to cementing the connection with ourselves. Sometimes a silent meditation is perfect, and sometimes guided meditations are da bomb. I have so much respect for Esther Hicks, and her Abraham Hicks Relationships Meditation (not just for love-relationships but for all connections with other people) is my go-to reminder of how important it is to stay connected.
  3. When fear motivates me to pull the curtains shut… that’s when I do myself — and you, and women —  a disservice. So in setting the intention to truly connect with ya’all, I’m bearing all and fuelling my courage with authentic and fearless conversations.
  4. Essential oils increase spiritual awareness and connection. The physical therapeutic benefits & also the moment of tender loving connection when applying them to the body, brings an instant sense of connection. There are so many ways to connect without the saying a word. I connect with my yoga students in savasana by giving them a little head massage with the oils. I connect with my husband by rubbing his feet with Lavender, Vetiver and Hawaiian Sandalwood before bed. Not a word said, but whole lot of connection right there. THAT creates connection.
  5. The intention to simply bring more celebration, creativity and connection to our everyday, with all forms of expression, invites us to hold the principles of what’s going on in our hearts and minds as a complex tool. Tools of inquiry & connection. By setting this intention EveryDamnDay, we can start to conjure up the consistency of self-inquiry, which will only lead to more true, authentic and honest relationships. Full of connection and love.

The butterflies in my belly are fluttering in anticipation of the months to come. I hope you decide to join me and this fast-growing and engaged community for this experience of learning, connection, and positive change in how we practice intimacy and change the way we live, love and connect.

What have you found to be true about connection? Do you have any truths you’d like to share with us?  Anything that you’d like to declare for the upcoming months?

 

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The Weird Truth about Gratitude

Having just come out of what I can only call one of the most frustrating days of this year so far, i have had to remind myself on how to shift negative, and potentially harmful energy QuickSmart.  I mean, it’s pretty important to know how to get out of a negative energy state quickly, whether you’re arguing or have had a bad or distasteful experience – It could be one of the MOST IMPORTANT things you learn how to do in your life. SO HOW DO YOU elevate your energy in a quick and exciting way?

Simple…

You Focus on what you appreciate. By redirecting your focus on what’s working in your life,  (if you can) speaking it out loud.

By verbalising and saying what you appreciate by using your words, you will dramatically shift your negative state within minutes.

If you practice gratitude as opposed to maintaining an attitude of entitlement, you’ll automatically extend inspiration wherever you go. Being grateful helps remove the influence of your ego, which is certain that you’re better than everyone else.

An attitude of gratitude allows you to adopt what’s called “radical humility,” a trait that’s very persuasive in helping others feel inspired.

Most of the people I’ve met or observed who are at the top levels in their chosen fields have these attitudes of gratitude and radical humility. After all, when so many high achievers reach for their statuette or championship trophy, they say, “First I’d like to thank God.” It’s almost as if they can’t help themselves—they’re so grateful for their accolade, but even more than that, they know that there’s a Force in the Universe way bigger than they are that allows them to act, sing, write, compete, or design. And if you adopt this kind of an attitude, you’ll inspire others. It’s that simple.

Catapult yourself out of any negative state.
By being so audaciously grateful for everything that you have in your life.   IMG_5443

Your Home, Your shoes, Your meals…and go down your own daily list. Lean into it and move quickly out of a negative patterns & fear based stories. With a new vibration, you can reach for new thought patterns. By being appreciative and light-hearted, you’ll transport yourself into a new way of being. So just ask yourself,  What do you appreciate in your life, in your your circumstances?  This positive attitude that will help create our own positive reality.

And here’s another very important aspect of this process – You’ll become kinder and more compassionate with yourself.

By becoming more loving toward yourself, you will attract more of the higher, faster energies and begin to change what’s inside you. In your thoughts, you’ll start to  cultivate an inner voice and attitude that’s always FOR YOU. Imagine an aspect of yourself that only supports and loves you.

If you want to put this in practise, then you may consider scheduling a certain time of the day when that’s the only thought that you allow yourself to pay attention to! Pop a drop of Lime doTERRA essential oil in your diffuser, paint your nose with it and give yourself a moustache so that you can inhale the aromatic properties of it’s refreshing and glorious aroma.  Lime  Essential Oil is one of the Essential Oils that I use in my Practise to Cultivate an Attitude of Gratitude for all the Gifts of the the Imperfections in my Life.

I have noticed that gradually this attitude has extended to other people, even if i’ve only has a minute or two per day to practise.  Try it – You’ll begin to receive this energy back and ultimately be able to send thoughts of love and joy to everyone and everything in your world. Notice when your thoughts drift into the lower energy of ridicule or hate or guilt, and change the thought at that very moment, if at all possible. If you’re unable to change your thought, at least love yourself for what you did do— that is, for noticing.

Please Share your Thoughts & ways on how you shift your energy. I would love to hear how you transform your negative state into that which is positive and uplifting.

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As Louise Hay always says, your thoughts create your life and thinking positive thoughts around a negative outcome in your life will help to create a more positive outcome to occur going forward.

The quickest way to change your reality and shift your energy is to start consciously choosing better thoughts and having an attitude of gratitude. This means reaching for thoughts that feel good, and focusing on what you DO want and what you DO have, not on what you don’t want and what you don’t have. Gratitude always clears the runway for more awesomeness to keep showing up and it can snap you out of a negative downhill spiral in moments.

"Praise and promote the positive in others. Critical attitudes and behaviours can create fear in those around you".


		
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The Misleading Ingredients in your Camping Supplies

Andre and I, along with a couple of mates, went camping not so long ago to a little place called Tumut in New South Wales in Australia.

We only went for two nights, as it’s all that we had time for, but oh my word, did we have fun.  We managed to secure the perfect spot along the river, where we could see the river from our open tents.  The sound of the water coming off the Snowy Mountains gushing at about 15km per hour was the perfect sound to go to sleep at night and wake up to.

There’s something about being in nature that really lights me up. This is most certainly a practise that I want us to keep up through the year. Mind you, the winter-cold in a tent isn’t something that excites me, so we may just have to save it for the warmer months.

Never-the-less, whilst preparing for our little trip to the Great OutDoors, I was compelled to create and make-up all bug repellant ointments, cooling-sprays, flea sprays (for Marvin of course), and also sunburn sprays from  the Essential Oil Collection that we have. It was an idea that originally came from Andre, as he had mentioned that he wants a fly-spray for when he is on the golf-course so that he isn’t distracted by those nasties landing on and around his face whilst trying to enjoy a relaxing game of golf each weekend.

I have posted the Bug Repellant Spray Recipe on my Oily Recipes Page, but also wanted to share with you some really interesting information and articles I found about the damaging effects of certain store bought repellants.

  1. Some Common Side Effects for store bought insect repellants include skin reactions, allergic reactions, and eye irritations.  A 2009 study found that DEET (which is a chemical found in most insect repellants) can interfere with the activity of enzymes that are vital for the nervous system to function properly. doTERRA have published an article on their website about the Common “scents” defensea term they have coined for Drawing upon Mother Nature’s blueprint to use Essential Oils to ‘Bug Off’ when needed.
  2. Many topical medicated creams for insect-bites, itching and irritations have side effects, causing redness, irritation and or swelling. An article published back in 2008 (yes, that’s how old and obvious this information is) talks about various instances where women have DIED because of their use of various ointments and lotions purchased over the counter.  Here, Leslie Goldman investigates 14 ingredients commonly found in products you may be using right now — and she tells you how to stay safe. My advice after reading this is simple. Don’t use products with ingredients you don’t know how to pronounce.   Stay within the realms of natural medicine, and pop food grade essential oils and other products on your skin to allow Mother Nature to take care of your woes.
  3. The natural oils in plants protect the plant from insects, shield the plant from a harsh environment and help them adapt to their surroundings. By USING essential, you are harnessing the protective and health-promoting powers of a plant. Essential oils are truly the most potent form of plant-based medicine. Their power to heal and cure disease, and in this case, to act as an insect repellant, is so effective that by using essential oils many people are able to avoid the need to use a plethora of drugs or have various types of surgeries.

With all that in mind which 8 oils did I take with me? and why?

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  1. Tea tree – What a potent powerhouse tea-tree (melaleuca) is.  Tea tree soothes itchy insect bites, sores, and sunburns, acts as a powerful antiseptic and anti-microbial, and acts as an effective insect repellent. For scratches, bumps and cuts… bring out the tea-tree!  You can also use tea-tree as a hand sanitiser either neat, or mixed with water in a spray bottle.  

  2. Lemon is best known for its ability to support the body’s natural detoxification and is widely used to stimulate lymph drainage, to rejuvenate energy, purify skin and also act as an insect repellant.

  3. Clove Oil is a powerhouse of an oil and has so many practical uses. Mixed with some LemonGrass Essential Oil, acts as a very effective insect repellant. We diluted this mixture with Fractionated coconut oil because Clove is quite a spicy oil and a neat application (the oil direct on the skin with no carrier oil) should be avoided.
  4. Lavender Oil is a great all-rounder with a wide range of applications so it’s the perfect addition to the travel kit.   Lavender heals burns (including sunburn), wounds and skin irritations, including eczema and psoriasis.
  5. Peppermint Essential Oil is so versatile that I don’t go anywhere without it!
    Plus, it’s one of the most affordable oils and has a clean and refreshing smell that we all love!  It acts as a 
    Sunburn Relief – If you’ve been out in the sun a bit too long, 1 drop of Peppermint and 1 drop of Lavender combined with some Fractionated Coconut Oil can be rubbed on the area of concern to cool the skin and alleviate the burning. I use it a lot to Relieve Bloating, Indigestion Gas (whoops), or Nausea. Rubbing 1-2 drops on the area of concern, or if you’re comfortable, drop 1 drop of Peppermint directly on your tongue (only Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade Essential Oils please) and drink a glass of water. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY! To Freshen Your Breath. Because nobody likes morning breath! Place 1 drop of Peppermint on your tongue for super fresh breath!

  6. Frankincense – Because I don’t go anywhere without Frankie. I imagine that you know that Frankincense has been around for thousands of years, but did you know that it can be helpful for hundreds of different things?!  Seriously, it is used for everything from immune support, inflammation, skin issues, supporting the thyroid, and so much more. Luckily I brought it with me because Andre’ started to feel a bit flu-y on the first night we were there, and although I didn’t have a roller bottle on me, I sprayed his feet with Frankincense and OnGuard.
  7. OnGuard Essential Oil Blend.  Have you smelt the On Guard Essential oil or any of the On Guard range yet? If you haven’t, just get onto it. It is so warming, reminding me of Christmas. The beautiful aromas of orange, cloves and cinnamon mixed tighter just fills our house with joy.  On Guard Protective Blend of wild orange, clove bud, cinnamon, eucalyptus, and rosemary CPTG essential oils. This powerful essential oil blend is combined with plant-based derivatives that provide a non-toxic and biodegradable way to clean and eliminate odours….perfect to expertly clean hard surfaces leaving behind a clean and invigorating scent.
  8. LemonGrass Essential Oil is a very economical oil that is useful for aromatherapy, to help with various health issues, and can be used in your cooking.  Also a great insect repellant!

    If you’re interested in learning more about Essential Oils, then join my mailing list, or click here for info on how you can get these babies into your life.

    I’m interested to know what you use and take with you when you go camping? Please comment below and share this post.

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Can you really have it all?

After coming home from a long weekend of camping (yes, we went camping – cue gasp!), we feel refreshed and ready for what 2017 has to throw at us.  Come at us 2017 – We’re ready and rearing to go!

I can’t help but think that coming home from a holiday, for some, is a bit of a stressful experience simply because they’re returning to a job that they don’t particularly love.  The mere thought of sitting in traffic, on a train or bus, crowded with people who are breathing in your space makes you sick, & maybe you’re not too convinced that being around your boss or your colleagues is adding to your high vibes.

Will you be promoted this year? Will your work hours be extended and will your job really become all that you had hoped it would be ?  I know this feeling. Having felt it so many times when I was in my corporate career of HR, I disappointingly had to face the realisation that my fate lay in the hands of those who managed me, and my goal of changing people’s lives for the better – the hope and dreams I had of truly making a a positive impact on the lives of my colleagues – became an unobtainable nightmare. There was just no way that my job was ever going to fulfil me, no matter how high I climbed the corporate ladder.

Fast forward 16 months, and I’m sitting on our spare bed working on my laptop, with my charged iPhone by my side, the sun streaming on my sin-kissed cheeks, a cup of coffee (freshly brewed from the incredible coffee machine we received as a wedding gift – BEST GIVE EVER!), and a smile from ear to ear. Not only because I have this beautiful job which allows me to work my own hours, but because I get to connect with phenomenal people from all over the world, and help them chase their own version of freedom.

A lifestyle where there are no limitations. Say What!?

A life where they can ‘do whatever they like’; ‘whenever the hell they want’, and of course, ‘with who they want to.’

Sounds like the true pursuit of happiness right? and it is.  I feel empowered to be my own BOSS, improve my health, mental state (daily) and I get to earn money whilst looking myself as numero uno.

Let me tell you one thing here ladies, there is NOTHING MORE POWERFUL and rewarding than working with kismet souls, towards something BIG and worthwhile and philanthropic, all the while helping people grow, and reach their full potential – all in one foul swoop. SWOOP!

Anyway, the growth that I have undertaken in the last 4 months alone leaves me feeling blessed. Ecstatic. Wanting More. No. Needing More!

I have finally found something that has held my attention for longer than 4 months -<Miracle>- and it truly makes my heart sing. I literally jump out of bed every friggen morning before 6am (unless I am teaching that morning – Yes I still get to teach weekly yoga classes, which i love BTW, in which case I’m up at 5am) no alarm clock necessary! I have surrounded myself with inspiring people and I love my life.

Can you honestly say that you feel like this every damn day?  How does your job make you feel?  Can you give back to the planet, to your community in ways that make your heart sing?

In 4 measly months, I have learnt that I can inspire friends and family to live a healthy life, whilst designing the life that I LOVE. I create an abundant income from home and get to pick and choose the hours that I work, from anywhere I choose.

If you’re curious to know what I’m banging on about, and you’re looking for something incredibly exciting, please email me for more information – arianna@ariannapienaar.com

You have absolutely nothing to lose & everything to gain. This could honestly be one of the best decisions you have ever made in your life. This is life changing shit ya’all. Don’t just sit around and wonder – just ASK!

Join a tribe with Heart and Soul. One that puts you on a pedestal for the gorgeous human that you are. This is your opportunity to build an income whilst learning about health and wellness, and helping others to do the same.

I promise you that this isn’t a ‘get rich quick scheme’ and it’s not a fucking pyramid scheme (which, by the way, were made illegal in 1977).

It’s a service based business where you get to truly serve the people around you, and around them. The product is phenomenal and the company has one of the (of not THE) highest ethical standards I have ever known.  You don’t have targets set for you by some big-shot in a high back chair at Head Office – (yuk), you do what feels right for you, whenever you feel like it. Look, I’m not saying that it’s all rainbows and fairies, because the work you have to do is pretty hectic. BUT it’s working on yourself, to be a better human being.

Yes! that’s right folks – P E R S O N A L  D E V E L O P M E N T

How do you think I became such a legend! (just jokin’ but you catch my drift right?)