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The Science Of Happiness; and 4 Things You Can Start Doing Today!

Do you wish you were happier?

Wish that there was something that you could do to generate some true and everlasting happiness? Well look no further my friends, because I’, about to tell you  4 uber-cool ways to get turn your frown upside-down.

After having read ‘Thank and Grow Rich’, a book written by Pamela Grout, (more links to my fave books here) last year, I’ve experienced the benefits of practicing Gratitude first hand.

I’ve found that even when you think you don’t have it all, by simply focusing on what you have today, you’ll make space for a positive mindset, and you’ll actually be happier. Yes, you read right. It’ll MAKE YOU HAPPIER.

Watch this video to get the gist of what I’m saying:

Now that you’ve watched this really cool lab-guy in a white coat explain how the art of gratitude can make you happier, think about this:   The average person has an estimated 70,000 thoughts per day! (That’s crazy right?)

Now take a moment to think about the thoughts that run through your mind. Are they positive and uplifting? “Today is going to be an amazing day!” Or negative and self-defeating? “I don’t have the energy to get through today.”

Positive and grateful thoughts boost your mood, spirit, and tend to generate even more positivity and happiness in your life. Conversely, negative thoughts can create a domino effect of destructive energy. Falling into a spiral of negativity tremendously affects how you live your life and how others perceive you. Thankfully, you don’t have to accept the negative internal chatter. Choose to switch to a happier perception and reach for better thoughts. It takes a little practice, but soon enough, your mind will gravitate to the brighter side of life. Practice cultivating a positive, grateful mindset with these tips.

As Abraham Hicks say in their book – ask and it is given,’ We are often asked, Isn‘t love a better word than appreciation? Isn‘t love more descriptive of the Non- Physical Energy? And we say that love and appreciation are really the same vibration. Some use the word gratitude, or a feeling of thankfulness, but all of these words are descriptive of Well-Being. A desire to appreciate is a very good first step, and then as you find more things that you would like to say “Thank you” about, it quickly gains momentum. And as you want to feel appreciation, you attract something to appreciate. And as you appreciate it, then you attract something else to appreciate, until, in time, you are experiencing a Rampage of Appreciation.’

So what does it actually mean to MAKE SPACE FOR GRATITUDE? and what do I define as being grateful?  I think that the simple act of being aware and thankful of the good things that happen (and even the not-so-good things, as these are the ones that actually provide us with a silver lining of greatness to be grateful for) ; & taking time to express thanks.

Here are some ways I like to cultivate gratitude on a regular basis.

  1. I keep a gratitude journal and each day write down FIVE thoughts (and or more) that I’m grateful for.  I do this first thing in the morning, EVERY MORNING.  Whether i have 5 minutes or 15 minutes, expressing gratitude for me is a daily ritual.  I recently read that writing in a gratitude journal improves sleep, according to a 2011 study published in Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being, simply spending just 15 minutes jotting down a few grateful sentiments before bed, and you may sleep better and longer. (i’m going to start this tonight). I received this Wedding Journal as a gift for our engagement, but because I’m not the sorta gal to plan everything to a tee, I didn’t really use it, so I’m modifying the content.  
  2. When you want to express your gratitude to a friend or family member, Write a thank-you note, or even just send a text. You can make yourself happier and nurture your relationship with another person by writing to them, expressing your enjoyment and appreciation of that person’s impact on your life. Send it, or better yet, deliver a hand-written letter and read it in person if possible. Make a habit of sending at least one gratitude letter/ text a month.
  3. Thank someone mentally.  It may help just to think about someone who has done something nice for you, and mentally thank the individual.  With every thought you think, every emotion you feel, you’re acting as an epigenetic engineer of your own cells. YOU control your destiny. If you continue to focus on the things that you’re most grateful for, those things will continue to appear in your life. You will begin to change the neurological circuitry of your brain, and begin to think from that new level of mind.  Pretty incredible right?!
  4. Meditate!  This is BIG ONE!! People who are disciplined to meditate daily can use meditation to cultivate gratitude.  You can also use a technique called mindfulness meditation, which involves focusing on the present moment without judgment. Although people often focus on a word or phrase (such as “peace”), it is also possible to focus on what you’re grateful for (the warmth of the sun, a pleasant sound, etc.).

Gratitude may be one of the most overlooked tools that we all have access to every day. Cultivating gratitude doesn’t cost any money and it certainly doesn’t take much time, but the benefits are enormous.

We all have the ability and opportunity to cultivate gratitude. Simply take a few moments to focus on all that you have – rather than complain about all the things you think you deserve. Developing an “attitude of gratitude” is one of the simplest ways to improve your satisfaction with life.

(ps . this is not the first post I’ve written about gratitude – see another by clicking here)

Intimacy and Connection

My 5 Transformational Truths about Connection and Intimacy

Having dappled with being a sole trader (or as I like to call it a soul trader) for over three years, and from time to time, having my finger in the employment pie, whether it be as a full-timer or part-timer, it was time that I finally took the plunge and rocked the world of entrepreneurship.

Ups, Downs and Whirlwinds later, I am starting to find my feet in this luscious land of being my own BOSS, which by the way, took a while for me to get a handle on. No more ‘asking permission’ to do anything.  No more ‘justifications’. No more having to ask for time off ! (yeeha) I am finally the CEO of my own life, and I’m LOVING IT! Of course there are times, when the uncertainty gets the better of my psyche, but to be honest – all it takes are a few hours away from the screen, reading, walking or hanging out at the dog park with Marvin, and I’m reset & recharged.

The one thing that I wasn’t prepared for though, was the craving I now have for connection. Don’t get me wrong, I still teach Yoga, and host Essential Oil Classes around Australia. I’m on the phone All. Day. Long. But it’s not that I’m lonely. I mean, I’m an only child, and my bliss is being left alone to enjoy good quality ‘me time’. Drop me in the idle of no-where, and I’ll be as happy as a pig in poofie.
I’m talking about REAL connection. The type you find with people you work with every day. The checking-in every morning with a cuppa joe to find out how the few hours spent apart the night before went. The constant questioning and true concern about your home life. Your feelings, your worries, your experiences. You know what I mean?

Human beings are hardwired for connection and intimacy.  It’s the vulnerability aspect of true friendships that allow us to crack open and bare all. The ‘knowing’ that there is no judgment over our perception of situations, and the ability to be completely honest and truthful about our deepest darkest secrets.  So it’s no surprise (hindsight has 20/20 vision right?) that this is the one aspects of my new life, that I truly miss.

Over the years, I have loved deepening my connection with myself and researching the Divine within. I thought that I was confident in understanding and experiencing authentic relationships in all areas of my life.  Turns out that nothing prepares you for the effort required to reach out and create deep authentic connections, especially when you’re working by your lonesome.

Truly divine connections come when we do our best to honour and understand ourselves, and we’re able to wear our hearts on our sleeves. That’s the key to rocking relationships.

When you look back at how humans have lived throughout history, it’s always been about connection.

We used to live in tribes, and have our friends and families look after one another’s children.

Indigenous people live, breath, and participate in this kind of world still.  

They collaborate and celebrate life’s happenings. They live in harmony with a reverence for life, in a ‘you and me’ world. Not a ‘you or me’ me world.

Is this what has driven us apart as a culture? Have we lost our soul connections because of competition? Distinctions of living life in scarcity instead of sufficiency?

We have seriously lost touch with the importance of connection, community and celebration?

In the aggressive ‘money-culture’ that we live in, where we’re always craving more. More Money, Bigger Houses, Faster Cars. Are we missing out on experiencing the sensuous flows that invite intimacy with the present moment?

Should we instead be striving for More intimacy?  More connection?  More real, raw and authentic relationships?  And more fulfilment?

And if so, how do we boost intimacy & connection? Not only the sexual intimacy that we have with our partners and spouses, but that with ourselves and those close to us in our lives?

Here is what I have found to be true:

  1. Nothing beats connecting in real life, because common goals = true connection and a room of babes = laughs. ALL the best bits. My goal for the first half of 2017?  Connection 
  2. Meditation is the no.1 key to cementing the connection with ourselves. Sometimes a silent meditation is perfect, and sometimes guided meditations are da bomb. I have so much respect for Esther Hicks, and her Abraham Hicks Relationships Meditation (not just for love-relationships but for all connections with other people) is my go-to reminder of how important it is to stay connected.
  3. When fear motivates me to pull the curtains shut… that’s when I do myself — and you, and women —  a disservice. So in setting the intention to truly connect with ya’all, I’m bearing all and fuelling my courage with authentic and fearless conversations.
  4. Essential oils increase spiritual awareness and connection. The physical therapeutic benefits & also the moment of tender loving connection when applying them to the body, brings an instant sense of connection. There are so many ways to connect without the saying a word. I connect with my yoga students in savasana by giving them a little head massage with the oils. I connect with my husband by rubbing his feet with Lavender, Vetiver and Hawaiian Sandalwood before bed. Not a word said, but whole lot of connection right there. THAT creates connection.
  5. The intention to simply bring more celebration, creativity and connection to our everyday, with all forms of expression, invites us to hold the principles of what’s going on in our hearts and minds as a complex tool. Tools of inquiry & connection. By setting this intention EveryDamnDay, we can start to conjure up the consistency of self-inquiry, which will only lead to more true, authentic and honest relationships. Full of connection and love.

The butterflies in my belly are fluttering in anticipation of the months to come. I hope you decide to join me and this fast-growing and engaged community for this experience of learning, connection, and positive change in how we practice intimacy and change the way we live, love and connect.

What have you found to be true about connection? Do you have any truths you’d like to share with us?  Anything that you’d like to declare for the upcoming months?

 

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